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just_2_white_n_nerdy wrote:I'm so sorry that I haven't posted!!
My computer has been down for a while. :(
Guess what happened.
My friend asked me out. It. was. weird. :shock:
He's too sweet so I told him a half-truth...and now it's coming back to bite me in the butt.
I told him that I'm "not ready to date right now."
Now he thinks that because I didn't exactly shoot him down, that he can be freely hormonal and pick with me..*shudder* CREEPY.
What I should have said, despite his sweetness, was: "I don't like you in that way." I'm so stupid.
So now he thinks that we have a chance of dating as Juniors or Seniors...I hope he doesn't think he can show up on my doorstep the night of prom.. :shock:
Now every day in class I have to find an excuse not to sit next to him because we don't have assigned seats anymore.
He just sits really close to me and when he makes perverted jokes that I used to think were funny, I have to struggle not to just jump out of my seat and run!!!!!!

THE ONE TIME I DON'T WANT TO PICK MY SEAT AND THE TEACHER DECIDES THAT WE DON'T NEED A SEATING CHART!!!!!! :x

Okay, yeah, sorry about that. I'm a loser that has now been asked out once. I'm prone to get spazzy at these things.
First off, BREATHE. Gather your thoughts and tell him that you don't feel the same way. If you lead him on, it will be even worse later. I don't see a real problem with saying you're not ready to date, but then again, some guys don't take a hint. Just clarify to him what you meant.
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Post by just_2_white_n_nerdy »

Okay...How do I say that without it coming out cruely?
Because when he asked me he wanted to know if that was a yes or a no for later...so I said it was a "maybe". *flinch* Man, can I be stupid. :roll: I need to shut up now..my strange mind is starting to come up with escape plans. Anyway, back on topic. I really like this other guy and of course I'm not going to tell him who that is, but how do I tell him that I don't return his interest?

Wow, I really feel awkward explaining/asking this. :oops:
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just_2_white_n_nerdy wrote:I'm so sorry that I haven't posted!!
My computer has been down for a while. :(
Guess what happened.
My friend asked me out. It. was. weird. :shock:
He's too sweet so I told him a half-truth...and now it's coming back to bite me in the butt.
I told him that I'm "not ready to date right now."
Now he thinks that because I didn't exactly shoot him down, that he can be freely hormonal and pick with me..*shudder* CREEPY.
What I should have said, despite his sweetness, was: "I don't like you in that way." I'm so stupid.
So now he thinks that we have a chance of dating as Juniors or Seniors...I hope he doesn't think he can show up on my doorstep the night of prom.. :shock:
Now every day in class I have to find an excuse not to sit next to him because we don't have assigned seats anymore.
He just sits really close to me and when he makes perverted jokes that I used to think were funny, I have to struggle not to just jump out of my seat and run!!!!!!

THE ONE TIME I DON'T WANT TO PICK MY SEAT AND THE TEACHER DECIDES THAT WE DON'T NEED A SEATING CHART!!!!!! :x

Okay, yeah, sorry about that. I'm a loser that has now been asked out once. I'm prone to get spazzy at these things.
ok. settle down.
first off, you can't be subtle with guys. it's something i have learned the hard way MANY times. as my friend says "guys are idiots. we have no idea what is going on ever." this is a guy speaking.

so don't let him down easy. tell him exactly how you feel. how you only think of him as a friend.

next, you need to stop feeling awkward about him. treat him EXACTLY the same as if he'd never asked you out. treating him differently IS mean, and he doesn't deserve to be treated badly because he swallowed his pride and made a move.
remember, we want to encourage such behavior in guys.
we just also wish they would understand a 'no'
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Post by just_2_white_n_nerdy »

Shark4 wrote: ok. settle down.
first off, you can't be subtle with guys. it's something i have learned the hard way MANY times. as my friend says "guys are idiots. we have no idea what is going on ever." this is a guy speaking.

so don't let him down easy. tell him exactly how you feel. how you only think of him as a friend.

next, you need to stop feeling awkward about him. treat him EXACTLY the same as if he'd never asked you out. treating him differently IS mean, and he doesn't deserve to be treated badly because he swallowed his pride and made a move.
remember, we want to encourage such behavior in guys.
we just also wish they would understand a 'no'
Thanks. Like I said: I have no experience in this kind of stuff. I'm glad I have you guys. :D And I was treating him the same until he started getting confident (as in being completely obvious, not only to me, but to anyone within a two mile radius) and making me feel awkward. It's not even that I don't want him sitting that close. I'm just like that. I enjoy my personal space. I freak out when someone gets too close. I spazzed one day just because this guy starts leaning over my table at me while I'm reading to straiten my glasses for me. I have no idea if it was just a thoughtful gesture or what, but I just get weird about my bubble. (Some people do that just because I spazz, including the guy that I actually like. :roll: )
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I hate it when boys say girls are confusing. It's so hypocritical.
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ashFLASH wrote:I hate it when boys say girls are confusing. It's so hypocritical.
ha ha! i have had so many arguments with this guy i used to be really good friends with (he is also my ex boyfriend)
and for the most part we didn't get too far, but i did figure out some of this whole "guys are confusing, girls are confusing" thing.

pretty much, we think in two different tracks. this is why guys seem confusing to girls, but not to guys and vise versa.

girls tend to over think a lot of things. (ever sat there and analyzed everything a guy said to you. yeah. we all do it).
guys tend to under think a lot of things.

so girls are sitting there over-thinking all of the things that guys under thought, and guys are getting all confused about the stuff we over though because they aren't thinking it through enough.

we proved this with a conversation about a sandwich. i forget the details, but i do remember it was very enlightening.

this is also why we need to be a little more blunt with guys than we would to our chick friends. they aren't going to read into it
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I'm not looking for actuall answers or anything here, just spouting random problems

I stickered this guy's car today at church. Not to be mean or anything but because i was giving everyone stickers so he hid in tha bathroom (i totally would have followed him if it weren't so crowded) so I put the stickers on his window instead. He's talking to/flirting with me again, and even offered me an adult free saturday with him (he SAID it was to get all the stickers off but we both know that we can't be left alone together and get anything done)

and my other guy friend from church is getting really huggy again, like never letting go of me. I love hugs, I am the worst hug whore ever but he will not let go of me, he always has his arm around my waist all day untill his mom comes to get him, it really bugs me..that and he does it in fron tof the guy I REEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLYYY like which make sit that much more irritating.

and sticks is still trying to hook me up with shadow while shadow blisfully oblivious is trying to make me like sticks..talk about brothers looking out for each other.

and my new manager at work is sooo amazing, crushworthy even. He likes rock, is extremely funny and he's really nice too. He'll wait wiht me when my ride's late and I'm working close, and he doesn't get all condescending to my little sister which is really important to me. I don't have a crush on him or anything, but I'm in danger of it.

And this other guy at work who's my age is so sweet too. We have tons of fun doing dishes together and I already know he likes me..AND my friend but mostly I just love hanging out with him.

And my ex I went out with him 2 years ago, only because he was so persistent, well he has a kid now and he's so funny and awesome to hang out with and I know he still likes me, but I know better than to get involved with another girl's baby daddy. But I know he's working up to ask me out again.

And OH MY GOTH! This other guy I work with he's twelve years older than me (but still younger than my brother) flirts with me constantly. He does little things that most people would consider sexual harrassment like untying my apron and stuff lke that even though I know he's just goofing speculations have been arroused.

Why is my life so full of awesome/cute/annoying/flirty guys? Is there soemthign about me I never noticed before?
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*streaks through thread*
I haven't been in here in a while...
Still dateless sadly, but at least my best friend is in the same boat as me so we can vent about it ocassionally. The guy I like now is also a cross country boy, but not the lame one from before who always flirted with me, yet when I showed interest moved on to another girl, this boy is actually a lot better-looking(I'm being shallow but whatever). Well anyway at this point I doubt anything will happen but you never know. Whenever I do talk to him he always seems to drop little hints and he's always nicer to me than other girls. Plus, he does a lot of the lame things boys seem to do when they like you('runs into me' in the hall, shakes my chair around when I'm in it, pokes fun at what my shirt says etc.). He always talks to me when he sees me and a few weeks ago his car wasn't working and he knows I don't have a car so we went 'car shopping' on the computers in our school library. He even asked me how long I had owned a pair of shoes because he saw me wearing them in a picture on someone else's myspace(which I would probably find creepy if it was anyone else haha). I don't know I just thought that's all a little much if he had absolutely no interest. Ugh I'm really just tired of waiting, I wish some lovely boy would waltz into my life right about now...
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Post by JaDe_ViPeR08 »

I HAVE!!!!! TO POST THIS IM MESSAGE! I'm dumbcrazychick, my massive crush is old_man_rivera..it makes me so happy! it's REALLY long though


old_man_rivera: did you sticker my car?
dumbcrazychick: NO!
old_man_rivera: uhuh
dumbcrazychick: what makes you thinki would do that?
old_man_rivera: um you had a roll of stickers and you went out to my car
old_man_rivera: and there are stickers on the window

dumbcrazychick: i was stickering PEOPLE remember?
old_man_rivera: uhuh..but there are stickers on my car
dumbcrazychick: well maybe if you had come out of the bathroom none of that would have happened
old_man_rivera: well if you had.....nvm
dumbcrazychick: if i had what?
dumbcrazychick: go ahead and finish your sentence
old_man_rivera: nothing
dumbcrazychick: go ahead and finish your sentence

(some stuff was cut out to make it shorter and pg)

old_man_rivera: go's back to my point earlier
old_man_rivera: the well if you had.....nvm
old_man_rivera: part

dumbcrazychick: if i had WHAT??????????????
old_man_rivera: well i won't say it...but lets think thi out together
old_man_rivera: its an action corrrect

dumbcrazychick: *nod*
old_man_rivera: ok lets think about today
old_man_rivera: you with your headphones
old_man_rivera: me with my hat?
dumbcrazychick: uhuh
old_man_rivera: on it was something

dumbcrazychick: *blinks*
old_man_rivera: ?
dumbcrazychick: and the somethign was?
old_man_rivera: think
dumbcrazychick: i wasn't paying much attention to the hat honestly
old_man_rivera: well what type hat was it
dumbcrazychick: the kind that goes on your head?
old_man_rivera: come onnnn
dumbcrazychick: I'M SORRY! can't yo just tell me?
old_man_rivera: red hat
dumbcrazychick: uhuh
old_man_rivera: white trim
dumbcrazychick: ok
old_man_rivera: understand
dumbcrazychick: !
dumbcrazychick: oooooooooh!
dumbcrazychick: ...dammit
old_man_rivera: ?
dumbcrazychick: *bangs head repeatedly against wall*
old_man_rivera: did you get it
dumbcrazychick: yeah
old_man_rivera: yeah
old_man_rivera: i'll try to wear it again

dumbcrazychick: !
old_man_rivera: unless you don't care if i do
dumbcrazychick: but you should
dumbcrazychick: no that it's neccessary or anythign
old_man_rivera: but its a good enough reaon to get your courage up
old_man_rivera: and go for it.....cause i will not make the first move

dumbcrazychick: *blushblushblush*


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Post by Isabella Cullen »

So I have a question:

For those of us who HAVE been on a date before.

Is there a usual way that it's supposed to go?

I'm a very old-fashioned type of girl, and would never EVER get the courage to actually ask a guy out. He's gotta do the asking.
Do you just go out to dinner and then a movie? (Like a typical American date?) Or what?

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