Sasha wrote:Now, I am going to repeat a question I asked a little while back (possibly on this thread):
Why is Edward allowed to make mistake after mistake without any fandom back-lash, but Bella, after doing one bad thing (because I don't believe it was a mistake) is deemed unoworthy of the great Edward?
Please do answer... I really want to know the thought-process behind waving away all of Edward's faults and bad descisions as "noble".
The naughty things Edward did -- most notably leaving, and causing Bella evil, wretched pain, in addition to various overprotective acts -- were done for Bella. Was it selfless? No, of course not. But he was trying, in his meager but determined way, to allow her some semblance of normal life at great personal cost.
What Bella did to Edward -- most notably The Great Dog Snog
-- had absolutely not one single thing to do with Edward. She was acting for herself, and only for herself. I'm not necessarily saying that that, by its nature, is entirely bad. BUT, I think when you love someone you really should take great care not to treat them like cast-off yellowtail heads on fishermans wharf. Will you always and forever succeed? No, of course not. But you should try, I think.
I've seen a whole crapload of trying from Edward, however misguided and with whatever horrifying consequences. But I saw no such thing from Bella in this book. Not until the end, after she'd already exhausted her surplus of Fantastically Moronic Behaviors.
But I must again reiterate: I don't blame Bella entirely. In fact, I think I'm letting her off quite easily. I just really think that the way things transpired -- not THAT they transpired, necessarily -- was inappropriate.
I've spent 2 books having Bella/Edward wonderfulness spoon fed to me. I have come -- as I believe I was supposed to -- to legitimately care about the characters. The Great Dog Snog
seemed far too much like plot device, to me. And NOT like something I could reasonably expect Bella to do . . . in one single book, let alone one single paragraph.
I survived The Great Dog Snog and all I got was this lousy sigline.
[i]astra inclinant, non necessitant[/i]