If you were Bella's friend

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Crusader For Literature wrote: Their treatment of her would be reproachable if they were actually her friends and she were actually theirs. If so, firstly she wouldn't have gone zombie, and secondly, they wouldn't have abandoned her. But she literally didn't consider them friends, so their behavior was perfectly understandable and acceptable. She didn't care much about them before edward and not at all after. She didn't consider them friends, only tools to be manipulated if necessary.

Seriously, I think this whole idea sprung from desire to see Bella as this poor victimized soul who had no meaning in her life besides vampires. She wasn't. Not having friends when zombified was her problem and her fault.
Now you have to remember, she didn't start school one day and the next day was with Edward. She interacted with these people 5 days a week sometimes more, classes, lunch time, at La Push, shopping. She hung out with them and started relationships with them. Then she was with Edward.
I don't view Bella as a poor victimized soul. I think Bella is very independent and strong. But I don't think she is heartless and to feel any less than what she did when Edward left would have been incomprehensible.
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<center> Well, I don't think her friends really thought that Bella was as in love with Edward as she was
<center> From the outside it probably seemed like a silly highschool relationship that was bound to end at somepoint
<center> However, it was so much more than that
<center> And I don't think her friends could comprehend just how much it hurt her

<center> I think they were annoyed at her because they figured
<center> "Well it's not like we haven't gone through heartbreak too but we got over it"
<center> If it were me I would try to stay friends with her, and support her
<center> But then again, Bella never really related to her "friends"<center> And I think I'm a little bias because I know how much she loves him because I was reading the story from her point of view
<center> So to me, I'd have a better understanding

<center> If I didn't know the depth of the relationship
<center> And I was an outsider looking in I would probably be annoyed
<center> And because I have a really loyal personality I'd probably try for a while
<center> Advise her to move on, try to find her someone else
<center> (Again, I would be a bystander so I wouldnt know exactly how irreplaceable Edward was)
<center> But it gets hard to be in a one way relationship
<center> So after a while I'd probably give up
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Post by fantasia »

I assume they did try to be supportive at first (I haven't read NM in a while so I can't remember exact details of what happened), but the months before Bella started to pull herself out of the fog were glazed over, so we don't really know what happened there.

I imagine it would be hard to deal with someone like that, and I guess they just gave up. They still shouldn't have been rude, though...that was a little cold.

Keep in mind, she didn't know anyone that well...and I don't think she got close to any of them. I would have been shocked to see Bella at Jessica's house having a heart-to-heart after Edward left, she just never seemed that interested in her friends at school.
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Honestly, I think that was plain cruel. I've been through several mini-breakdowns where I'm pretty much catatonic from anywhere from two days to two weeks (I have an anxiety disorder and I don't manage my stress and phobias so well all the time, and my body just shuts down on me), and I know the only thing that can pull me out of it sometimes is the love and support from my friends and my boyfriend. They should have definitely been much more supportive, and when she came out of the zombie stage should not have treated her the way they did. But then again, that just proves who actually really cares about you, and not just who you date. Kind of that cliché thing about finding out who your true friends are.
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LisaAnn wrote: Kind of that cliché thing about finding out who your true friends are.
Well said! :wink:
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Post by Bella_Cullen_13 »

I think it was just Jessica & Lauren, it's there personalities.

Personally, I would understand it, but I would be a little annoyed, but I could look past it. (if I was Bella's friend)
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Post by dandelion »

Honestly, I wouldn't have reacted much differently from the others.

We aren't really told this, but I'm sure that when Edward first left, they must have all tried to do something, but with Bella's unresponsiveness, they must have gotten tired of it and simply given up.

I mean, Imagine going up to someone, trying to cheer them up, trying to start a conversation, see how you can help, and they don't even bother in replying, but instead would rather sit there, mute and unresponsive. I'm sure most people would eventually get sick of the same thing, and just leave her by herself.

Plus these people weren't really her friends anyways. She never really made an effort to bond much with them, and didn't care much for them before her and Edward got together, much less after.

And think about this, imagine that Angela or Jessica went through a situation as hard as Bella's....do you really think Bella would have sacrificed some of her precious time with Edward and the Cullens just so she could comfort Jessica or Angela? I don't think so.

So in a way, it's Bella fault.
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Post by Crusader For Literature »

dandelion wrote:And think about this, imagine that Angela or Jessica went through a situation as hard as Bella's....do you really think Bella would have sacrificed some of her precious time with Edward and the Cullens just so she could comfort Jessica or Angela? I don't think so.

So in a way, it's Bella fault.
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Post by emmett_<3 »

haha i wouldnt be her friend. not a chance.
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Post by SPARKLES »

I can't imagine being Bella's friend quite honestly. She never seems to have any fun, or even try to have any fun with any of them. Even Alice, she always seems really irritated with Alice. Any idea Alice has for fun, Bella shoots it down, acting all irritated. I really grew to dislike Bella through Eclipse. I hope she is different in Breaking Dawn. As far as I am concerned she has alot to make up for.
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