Imprinting....As good as human love?

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Re: Imprinting

Post by Leah (SWACM) » Mon Jul 07, 2008 2:47 pm

twilight4life wrote:At first i kind of thought imprinting was sort of like arranged marriage... but after i really thought about sam and emily's relationship, i realized its almost like true love. Even though sam loved Leah before, he just suddenly stopped and loving her (or atleast its seems like it, maybe he still kind of loves her :o ). Its not exactly fair for the other person. I don't really think Jacob will imprint on Bella because what would he do? I don't think Bella would leave Edward just because Jacob imprinted on her.
I was always wondering about that.
For me,imprinting is one of the bizzarest things in the whole Twilight saga and I couldn't be more torn between the two sides.

On one hand, I do believe that we were made as couples. I think that there is just this ONE person out there for us - the one we were made for. The moment you meet this person, your heart seems to start beating for the first time.
The moment you meet this person, you feel complete.

Many of you will tell me, this idea is exactly what imprinting is, but I can't wholeheartedly agree with that.
What if Jake HAD imprinted on Bella? Would she have had any choice? Maybe. There would've been no need for her to change her mind - because Edward gives her all the love, affection and admiration in the world and most important: she loves him the same way .
The point is, that to me, imprinting dosen't seem like equal love on both sides - there is the wolf that loves and the girl (or in Leah's case boy) that loves to be loved.

True love is something that hits and affects both sides at the same time - Like magnets. When they're around each other,they both feel that this is meant to be, that they will never want anyone else.Now think about Jared and Kim. Would he have fallen in love with her anyway? We will never know. He never noticed her before his instincts started to react. Can this really be true love? The more I think about it, the more I have to disagree.

Of course, the idea of imprinting is comforting to most of us - how could it not be? Beeing loved, admired and protected for the rest of your life, knowing your wolf has no choice but to stay with you - how could anyone not want that?
But like so often in real life, the easiest way's not always the best.
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Post by dsolo » Mon Jul 07, 2008 2:49 pm

Just read the last page of posts, and the question about why the biological drive to imprint. I had forgotten that my initial thought was that, of course, Jacob won't imprint on Bella because she's not Quileute. I had completely forgotten that some of them are imprinting on Makah. There seems to be a lot of intermarriage between the Quileutes and Makahs, and it wouldn't surprise me if the imprintees among the Makah have Taka Ahi's blood in them from that. Another question that keeps popping into my mind is, why is Leah a werewolf? It's apparently something unexpected, and that may explain why Sam didn't imprint on her. Why imprinting? I hope she answers that in Breaking Dawn, or maybe she'll write more books from the werewolf perspective. By the way, on the Quileute website are some of their legends. They do believe that they are descended from wolves, and that they are not related to any of the other tribes in the area, as all the closely related tribes to them were wiped out. If you started thinking about that in addition to SM's story, it would suggest that imprinting was a way to keep the werewolf gene strong without too much inbreeding. So many theories, so little time!

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Post by jacob'sleah » Mon Jul 07, 2008 2:52 pm

I think the beauty of falling in love naturally is that it takes time. You get to know a person, you know all of their little habbits, annoying or not. It would be a great disadvantage to be the imprintee ( with the exception of Jared/Kim) because you may not know anything about this person who has imprinted on you. Take Sam and Emily for example. They had never met when he imprinted on her. I can imagine that it pained Emily alot to have taken Sam away from her cousin. The connection they share has to be hard to grasp. I know I really can't put my mind around it yet.

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Post by XxKatiexX » Mon Jul 07, 2008 2:56 pm

I think it is not a bad thing ... They don't choose their partners but that's not wrong nobody chooses a partner poeple find them and fall in love. It is a bit strange when someone falls in love with a 2 years old child ... But it could like a brother loves a sister and later when she is older it could be real love ... love develops.
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Post by vampire luvr » Mon Jul 07, 2008 2:59 pm

I personally think that imprinting could be better then human love. The imprinter in the book is stuck with the imprintee he has to be with her. I know it sounds kind of cruel but he has to be with her it is almost like he has no other choice. :oops:
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Post by Marissa06 » Mon Jul 07, 2008 3:00 pm

I definitely think that Stephenie wants us to look at imprinting as a good thing, and I can see how it can be. But I also see the other side, which doesn't seem fair. I'm torn on this topic because I think it is wonderful that two people could be so perfect for each other. But as some of you have mentioned, what about cases like Same and Leah, who really were already in love and planning their future together? Emily comes along and all of a sudden Sam has no choice but to break the heart of the girl he loves. It seems like imprinting has the possibility of leaving a wake of destruction in its path because what if there are families, wives, husbands and children, involved? That doesn't seem right. On the other hand I can see how imprinting could bring two people together who really are each other's perfect match that may not have found one another otherwise. So in certain cases I say imprinting is great, in others not so much. I'm still torn on this topic. But, life is crazy and hectic and confusing too, so maybe imprinting just needs to be accepted for what it is, like everything else in life.

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Post by kvampireloverr » Mon Jul 07, 2008 3:13 pm

i believe imprinting can be beautiful but yet wretched.
you just can't force someone to love someone else at the same time it's really nice because it's a kind of unbrakable love.jake only wants to be with bella so that whole concept is horrible to him, and him impriting on somebody else would probably make him unhappy just like it made Sam unhappy
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Post by emilymichellecullen » Mon Jul 07, 2008 3:16 pm

Too me, imprinting to the werewolves is natures way of throwing a brick at them and saying "This is the person you are meant to be with" so i honestly look at it in a good way.

Now that i'm out of highschool i know tons of people that have dated someone for a very long time, even years, plan their futures, and in the end realize that they just aren't meant for each other. and in every case, the people have found new loved ones that they really were meant for. I don't know if what im saying makes sense, its hard to put it into words.
Like with Sam and Leah, they may have seemed perfect for each other at one time, but if he wouldn't have met emily i still think that eventually they would have grown apart, they were so young. Sometimes you can be compatable with people but never truely meant to be with them.

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Post by SparklingDiamond » Mon Jul 07, 2008 3:31 pm

Saskia wrote:
The only difference between imprinting and the normal way of falling in love is, that you can't ignore your feelings when you imprint.. and your feelings don't get weaker.
It's a more honest way of having a relationship, because there is no way of pretending your feelings. They are true.
I really think this is a very interesting opinion of imprinting. It truly does bring the hearts true feelings to light. How many people have ignored their true feelings and settled for or stayed in an unhappy situation? Even when, they felt drawn to someone else... Granted, there are many different reasons that poeple ignore these feelings, their children, family, etc... However, so many people just continue to go through the motions anyway...

On the other side of that, how many people have been married or in relationships and found someone else and gone for it? It happens all the time.

In addition, many people have brought up having a choice in love as being a difference from imprinting. I do agree that you choose who you spend your time with, but who you fall in love with is a different story.

When I was dating my husband, I don't remember sitting down one day and saying to myself, "Okay, this is it. I am going to fall in love with him today." It just happened. I choose to spend time with him, but in the end I fell in love with him.

So, I don't think that imprinting is that different from falling in love. Imprinting just gives you a heads up about the good things to come. You still get to experience the true falling in love when you choose to spend your time with the other person, just as would in a human relationship.

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Post by Leah (SWACM) » Mon Jul 07, 2008 3:53 pm

SparklingDiamond wrote:


When I was dating my husband, I don't remember sitting down one day and saying to myself, "Okay, this is it. I am going to fall in love with him today." It just happened. I choose to spend time with him, but in the end I fell in love with him.

So, I don't think that imprinting is that different from falling in love. Imprinting just gives you a heads up about the good things to come. You still get to experience the true falling in love when you choose to spend your time with the other person, just as would in a human relationship.
But I think that's exactly the point. The imprintee dosen't choose to spend time with the imprinter - he has to, because somehow nature already made the choice for him. So it dosen't really matter if they fall in love at once or after plenty of time. It's going to happen and that's for sure.
It's no decision of your own free will and in my opinion, love should always be.
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