Sasha wrote:At first she lived for other people- Charlie, Jake, her mom- because that is who Bella is. But then she did slowly begin to move on. Which, IMO, does not mean her love was at all less than Edward's... it just means she is a stronger person. And same with her being able to fall in love with Jake.
I disagree that Bella was moving on for herself at the end of NM. To the very end (of that
book at least) she struggled with whether or not she would be able to move on for Charlie, Jacob, and others. But not one time did her inner wonderings on that issue deal wholly and totally with what SHE wanted. It was almost always about everyone else. But in my opinion, that is neither here nor there. Whether she moved on for herself or the neighbor up the street, the fact still remains that she did in fact move on. And being able to move on at all after losing what was supposed to be her one true love, smacks resoundingly like someone who maybe
was not as in-love as originally believed. And I don't think that Bella's moving on is a testament of her strength of character. Because it's her character's strength (or lack thereof) that had readers so up in arms throughout NM and Eclipse. In NM, she was accused of being weak for mourning Edward so long and for forgiving him so quickly when he returned. In Eclipse she was accused of being weak for not saying "no" to Edward and for allowing him to 'control' her life. So how can the same character who exhibited the same traits be weak on one end and strong on another? Bella's ability to love Jacob was not attributed to any inner emotional or survival superiority over Edward. It was attributed to the very thing that Edward questioned when he left . . . her humanity. It took longer for it to show-up than most humans, but in the end, Bella did prove to be every bit as malleable and flexible as any other human. Because given more time, she probably would have given up and moved on. Making her just as predictable as anyone else. She would have had a normal life and a normal family just like anyone else. And later on in life, if she harbored regrets or sadness about the way her life turned out, then she would simply learn to cope with it just like anyone else.
As for Eclipse strengthening Bella and Edward's relationship... I disagree. For me, it did little to nothing for their relationship... and, if anything, it weakened it. Edward started doubting Bella's love for real, Bella realized that Edward wasn't the only person on the planet, and both danced around the issues.
On points one and two, I agree. I don't see how the events of Eclipse made their relationship stronger. Edward's absence and subsequent return simply exposed weaknesses in their relationship that were never before seen. I've said this before, but if I were Edward, I'd contemplate leaving her again. Because he was right to leave the first time. He would be right again. Could he in good conscious change Bella knowing that she could still have a decent human future, even if it wasn't the future she chose? I sometimes question whether the answer is worth risking both their souls.
And to address Ouisa's
statement about Edward and his blasphemous denial of the all encompassing love he felt for Bella . . . I know you have issues with the lie. And I can understand why it would upset you (and so many other fans). But honestly, couldn't any one of us lie? Couldn't any one of us lie and utter hateful and harmful words if the end result meant that the person we loved above all else would be able to live? For instance: If someone were looking to harm my child because of something I did . . . if they had threatened and promised to do her harm simply because of her relationship to me . . . and if I had to face that threat and my child's connection to me with her imminent harm hanging in the balance . . . I would lie the best lie I could ever think to lie. I would deny her. I would turn away from her. I would say whatever needed to be said just so long as she was able to live. No matter what the hearing would do to her heart and no matter what the speaking would do to my soul. Because what are false words when the heart is true? And what is there to gain by true words when the utterance of them could mean the complete and total annihilation of ones heart? And maybe it is selfish. Because make no bones about it, harm to my child = my
I'm not saying that lying is good or that lying to a loved one is an admirable trait. But I am
saying that I can understand what motivates some
lies. And I understand why Edward lied to Bella in this instance. And if the circumstances were tweaked just a little bit (like, the story being based in reality . . . no vampires . . . etc
) I might have done the same.