I have to agree wholeheartedly with Searching on this point. And I promise I'm trying to look at this from a more critical point of view, rather than holding on to my Team Edward mentality.Searching For Topaz Eyes wrote:Now with Jacob. Jacob... Jacob.. Jacob.. *shakes head sadly* I always get the feeling that even though he is matured physically to 25 he is still a teen that just puts a mature mask over his thoughts and feelings. I think Jacob has convinced himself that he is in love, but we all know he hasn't looked elsewhere. He refuses to and never gave himself another choice.
I can believe that Jacob is in love. I can believe that he thinks he is better for Bella, that his love is more human. But what I can't believe is that he will never get over Bella. No, he doesn't say that specifically, but his actions in running away and cutting himself off from the pack show a lack of attempt to even understand Bella's choice. Honestly, I can't blame him. If someone I loved chose someone else over me, I'd probably want to run away and be wolf-like too, if I could. But I think that Jacob runs away because he lacks the maturity to sit on his couch for a week eating Ben and Jerry's and trying to keep a semblance of a life.
I like how Visitor put it:
Jacob has yet to get to the point in his life where he's found someone he cannot live without. He will pine for Bella, sure, but his heart will mend. A part of him will always love her, but because he is human, he will move on, and (fingers-crossed) find someone new. His love for Bella will have made him stronger, better able to handle love again when it comes down the pike.I do think that Jacob has a lot more maturing to do when it comes to love. But I guess the same can be said for Bella. The differences just seem greater to me where Jacob is concerned. I think we are supposed to be struck by the intensity of Jacob's resolve to love Bella. But I also think that, as readers, we are supposed to bear in mind Jacob's age ... Some of Jacob's actions read very mature and others read blatantly immature ... With experience comes understanding and with understanding comes maturity. So I think it is entirely possible for Jacob to mature into love. So that the maturity of love he has shown so far with Bella will be completely different from the maturity of love he shows if and when he finds his 'Eclipse'.
ETA: I just found this great quote that I think speaks volumes:
"Time cancels young pain." - Euripides
Those Greeks sure knew their stuff.