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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 4:26 pm
Hi I'm not sure if this is already a topic or what forum to put in but...
I would like to start a post on this article that i found online. The article is about whether or not Edward is an abusive boyfriend and i would like other people's opinions on the subject.
http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/recycle ... 6745143_1/
Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 7:57 pm
Well, that was an interesting article to say the least. I personally think it's a bit one-sided and it very harsh. It pushes Edward's acts, even the smallest ones, to the extreme. It reads a little too much into what he does for my liking.
It doesn't take into consideration the jealous, abandonment, and "decision-making" nonsense of Jacob Black. Don't get me wrong, I positively adore Jacob but he's done the same things...
For instance, he is clearly jealous of Bella's and Edward's relationship...like the whole thing with resorting to reminding Edward of Bella's face when Sam found he the night he left her. The whole conversation in the tent in Eclipse was definitely sparked with so much jealous and them trying to one-up each other, it was crazy! Plus all those notes back forth from Charlie and Billy. And now he's run off, he just can't bear that he didn't get Bella..the wedding is driving him mad, he's running off just like Taha Aki. Plus he said he rather see Bella dead, than turned into a vampire and be with him.
He abandoned Bella for his wolf-pack when he finally went through the change, but he came back just like Edward did from Italy. This article makes Edward sounds like a heartless monster (yeah....I know...let's just let that one slide! ^.^) like he wanted to leave her or abandon he, he was trying to keep her safe.
He also didn't allow Bella to make some of her decisions. Like when they kiss in the forest, we found out he was going to do it anyway but he guilt-tripped her into doing it herself. Plus when she tried to pull away he wouldn't let her, talk about force. He also kept on insisting that she was in love with him and consistantly trying to persuade her away from what she wants by telling her how things could be different with him...
Jacob pulled the suicide card as well, he said that it would be easy to take himself out of the picture before the big fight. Not romantic? Romeo and Juliet is considered on of the greatest romances of our time and also one of the greatest tragedies. So many, things are based off of that idea of suicide for one another, it's not even funny. If you feel so strongly about someone and the only way to be with someone is in death, then suicides are going to happen, as sad as it may be, if that person is miserable and that the only way for them to be happy, let them go.
I really do love Jacob but this article is very one-sided.
I think Edward just goes through these precautions to keep her safe and to keep her alive, it's all he figures he can do. She's so fragile in his world of very durable things. It's like trying to keep a crystal figurine whole while sifting through a pile of trash at the dump while a bulldozer. Extreme measure must be taken and you can only do what you know how to do. And his action reflect what he knows how to do to keep his figurine safe.
All-in-all I wouldn't call Edward abusive (or even Jacob for that matter! ^.^) but like his family has already pointed out he's a bit over-protective and melodramatic
We could easily make half the characters in the book sound terrible if we took their actions and tied them with harsh words.
Mrs. Cope: Pedaphile (thinking about Edward the way she did in Midnight sun)
Esme: Ustable & Suicidal (Carlisle saved her from when she jumped from a cliff)
Victoria: Hopeless Romantic (tried to avenge her lost love!)
Emily: Reckless (staying with Sam her "bear mauling")
Sam: Abusive as well (See Emily.)
And the list goes on....
You see you can make anyone in the book sound bad if you simply use one side and one instance in their lives.
Sorry for the rant-like post, but as Edward said "it's best to weigh your options" or something to that effect! ^.^
PS: I really do love Jacob with all my heart and it really hurt me to point out all his flaws and poor choices, but thats what makes this novel great!
Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 6:48 am
This is not the thread to start these kind of topics, you should request one of the Mods or Admins to create it here
. You can find a similar thread here
about Edward being controlling
Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:55 am
Oh sorry i wasn't sure where to post it lol :S
Umm..how do you request an admin to start this topic?
Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 12:48 pm
Under the 'For the accident prone' board, at the top of the threads, there is a thread titled 'Request a Thread'
Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 1:26 pm
In the Request a Thread link you can post asking about a topic you want the mods to create
Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 4:23 pm
thanks a lot :] should I delete this post then? thanks again!
Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 4:39 pm
Don't worry, i'll take care of it