No. No it's not. In fact, I was so sure you would say this that if you had surprised me and said that you WERE down with it, I would have been very disturbed indeed. It would have caused me to question everything I believe about life as I now know it.I am not down with the imprint (is it any wonder, really?)
I have no difficulties understanding your point of view, either because (as I stated in my opening post...) I fully "get" both sides of this argument. But I just wanted to answer this:
Me either! I think that's why it doesn't bother me so much.To start, I don't equate imprinting and love.
Oh, and this:
Oh honey. I hear you. I cannot stand the claustrophobic feeling of not being able to change my mind. I am one of those people who feels "diner's remorse" the instant the waiter has taken my order. I want to chase him down through the aisles of the restaurant and tackle him before he gives my final answer to the chef. I'm not scared of commitment, I just have indecision issues. There is a distinction, believe me.I can never change my mind and I think that's dreadful.
My point is, I don't think free will is lacking when it comes to imprinting. I think that, while it may be instinct that is determining your mood, it is still YOUR instinct. It is still YOUR mood. Am I making sense? I think Visitor worded it better than I am trying to now... maybe I'll quote her:
That's what I was trying to say. I sort of also tried to say it in my other two posts in this thread but I'm quoting Visitor because it's just so much better.As to the "allusion of loss of free will" . . . The way I see imprinting, isn't it really the imprinter making the decision? Maybe not consciously. But ultimately? I think of imprinting as some kind of fail safe speed dating simulator on acid. It speeds through the long term mating compatibility of potential mates on a subconscious level. In other words, it's a person's very own junk mail sorter, trying to weed out and connect on a subconscious level with the subconscious of another. Hence the reason that gravity moves the moment an imprint is found. Gravity moving is like an alarm system to the imprinter which notifies them of the presence of their perfect mate. It doesn't choose for them, it simply informs them of a match. Which is probably why no such response occurs with other potential mates because the subconscious mind (i.e. the fail safe speed dating simulator on acid) has already tested compatibility and found those other potentials lacking in some way. The subconscious mind is capable of dismissing other potential mates even when the conscious mind has not. That is why it is still possible for Sam to love Leah and for Jacob to love Bella. Since imprinting is a relatively passive process, it does not impede the imprinter from falling in love and forming other relationships. In fact, it doesn't interfere at all in those relationships. Its sole purpose is to alert.
Looking at it that way, imprinting doesn't seem all that bad. It smacks less of fate and more of free will at its most potent phase.
Anyway, just some thoughts!